About Marylou Shira Hadditt

Self Portrait

Self Portrait

87 year old Marylou Shira Hadditt, born a Southern Belle-Jewish Princess, is a civil rights and political activist, lesbian feminist, mother, grandmother and writer who says, “I want to share my stories before I die.”

In addition to all of the above and its various mutations, my life has included two husbands, two traumatic lovers, four children, some travel, and forty years of being bipolar 1 (That’s the bad kind of bipolar.) You can get a better picture of all my various manifestations, by what I wrote as a sign to go on the urn of my ashes:




“Here lies the remains of:
Mary Louise (Boots, Bootsie) Holzman, Deutsch, Stauffer
Also know as
Marylou Hadditt
Whose Hebrew name is

Her names tell the story of her life.

And that is what you will find in this blog. Bits of pieces of what I’ve done, where I’ve been, who I lived with, loved with and fought with.; pieces of joy and clumps of regrets; victories and disappointments. Paper dolls and illustrated stories. Trip journals and photos of long lost friends.

I invented my last name in 1975, when I entered the Women’s Movement and left my second husband. Here’s what I wrote at that time:

I’m tired of a sir name
I want a her name.
I’ve had my first husband’s name.
I’ve had my second husband’s name.
I’ve had my father’s name
and my grandfather’s
and my great grandfather’s
all the way back to Adam’s rib.

I’ve had it!

That’s it.
I got it.
My her name.
I love it!
Marylou Hadditt,
That’s me.

3 thoughts on “About Marylou Shira Hadditt”

  1. Sue Rode/ Karen Kubrin said:

    I’ve read them all. I am glad you are sharing all of this.

  2. bloom almeida said:

    i had no idea that you had named yourself! how clever and liberating! i, too, renamed myself at one point, at age 17, and know how it feels. but i wish i would have been so clever :)

  3. Sandy Chelnov said:

    Hello Marylou! Oh my, what a wonderful blog you have. It is inspiring! I’ve just had the time to glance a bit. More for later.

    I found you by seeing a photo of you with Lucia posted on a friend’s Facebook page from First Unitarian in Oakland . . . and sent a message.

    You are looking wonderful, I must say.

    I now (and for the past 9+ years) live outside Buffalo, NY with my second husband, Greg Photiadis (whom I first met in college back in 1968!) and two dogs and 20 year old cat. Active as an environmental activist and studying to be an interfaith (interspiritual) minister which is all quite the adventure. My daughter Tania, now 27, is wrapping up an MFA in Acting at UNC Chapel Hill and the will be sallying forth to the Big Apple.

    Hope that all is well . . . take good care. Do drop me a line!

    Much love,


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